The call to conform holds up inciting images to authenticate its message. Often, these images and messages ruffle our thoughts and feelings and prompts certain actions. The need to corm blinds us to our unique opinions, innate desires, personal styles and individual preferences. When we do corm, the views we embrace, the feelings we express, the decisions we make, the actions we take and the path we follow may gradually halt, subdue and even kill our inner convictions, our individuality, our creativity and our dreams.
To ensure that each of us walk a path that allows us to stay true to who we are, what we believe and what we dream, we should confront the call to conform, analyze its claims, question its validity and value, and compare the answers to our beliefs, values and convictions. We should ask questions such as: Will conforming diminish me? Will conforming in this instance complicate my current path or hinder my future plans? Am I prepared to face any fallout if I conform? Is conforming here worth it?
The answers can help us decide if conformity in a particular area is a minor issue with no negative personal, emotional or professional consequences or a major decision with short- or long-term consequences. If after examining the issues, we choose to dismiss the call, we should stand our ground, steel our heart, stick to the thoughts, feelings, lifestyle and dreams we hold and cherish.
Negative comments thrown at us can hurt deeply. They make us second-guess ourselves, our convictions, our choices and our actions. The following quotes can serve up a mega dose of motivation to accept, love and be who you are.
The surest way to corrupt a youth is to instruct him to hold in higher esteem those who think alike than those who think differently. ~Friedrich Nietzsche, The Dawn, 1881
“To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best, night and day, to make you everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight; and never stop fighting.” ~ E. E. Cummings
Don’t think you’re on the right road just because it’s a well-beaten path. ~Author Unknown
“To know what you prefer instead of humbly saying Amen to what the world tells you you ought to prefer, is to have kept your soul alive.” ~ Robert Louis Stevenson
You don’t get harmony when everybody sings the same note. ~Doug Floyd
The reward for conformity was that everyone liked you except yourself. ~Rita Mae Brown, Venus Envy